How to Deal With Disrespectful Stepsons

While some stepsons get along with their stepparents right from the beginning, others don't take to their stepparents as easily. They may still be upset about the breakup of their family, and are not ready for a new stepparent. Some stepsons may even disrespect their stepparents by not listening to their rules or talking back to them. Dealing with a disrespectful stepson can be both frustrating and discouraging. However, you can use certain strategies to deal with your stepson's disrespectful behavior and build a healthier relationship with him.

Instructions

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      Remain calm. No matter how disrespectful your stepson is, it is important to keep your composure. Recognize that your stepson is going through a difficult time, and don't take his disrespectful actions personally. Rather than yelling at him, take a deep breath and count to 10.

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      Speak to your spouse in private. Let him or her know that your stepson's disrespectful behavior concerns you. Tell him or her that you want to get to know your stepson better, but are not sure how to approach him. Let your spouse know that you understand he may not be comfortable with you yet, but want him to show you more respect. Because he or she knows your stepson better, he or she may suggest ways to communicate with him.

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      Do an activity with your stepson. Choose an activity he enjoys, such as bowling, bike riding or playing basketball. While you two are together, ask questions about his school, friends and hobbies. Let him know that you are truly interested in getting to know him better.

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      Show your stepson respect. Because you recently came into his life, he may not feel like you have earned his respect yet. A good way to earn his respect is to treat him like you want to be treated. Always knock on his door before coming in, and say the word "please" when you ask him to do something for you. If he notices that you truly respect him as a person, he may start to show you more respect.

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