How to Handle a Defiant Teenager

Parenting is one of life's most difficult jobs. Children do not come with a handbook, and as a parent you want to raise your child to be a well-adjusted individual. As children become teenagers, they can be even more difficult, believing they should have more freedoms. The teenager may even become defiant. But there are things you can do in dealing with defiant teenagers. You must work at your relationship with your kid and help him get over his defiance. It will not be easy, but as a parent you must do everything you can to help your defiant teenager before his behavior gets out of control.

Instructions

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      Explain the rules calmly. Tell your child the importance of these rules. You must speak rationally and let your teenager know what is acceptable behavior. Make sure she understands each rule.

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      Spend quality time with your teen. You may be busy at work and not have extra time. But make some effort to spend a little time with your teenager, even if you just watch a movie together once a week. Let him know you are always available if he needs to talk. Your teenager needs to know you are there for him and you care about him.

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      Raise her in a healthy environment. Children learn what they see. Show love in your relationships. Don't argue around your children. Always try to demonstrate a loving family situation.

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      Punish bad behaviors. If your teen breaks a rule and defies you, you must punish him. You cannot make excuses for him and feel sorry for him. You are helping him by forcing him to account for his actions and pay the consequences.

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      Reinforce positive behaviors. If your teen is behaving well, make sure you point that out to her. Always let her know when she has done a good job on something. Tell her you are proud of her.

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      Seek counseling for a teenager who is extremely defiant and keeps getting into trouble. There may be underlying issues you don't know about, so look for help for your teenager.

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