How to Resolve Conflict in Blended Families

A newly blended family faces the challenge of merging personalities that are accustomed to their previous environments. Whether you are becoming the step parent of one or more children, you must establish a solid relationship with each family member on an individual basis. Bringing adults and children with different perspectives together under a single roof requires an amount of understanding and compromise. A breakdown in communication or unclear expectations can produce a stressful environment within the home and initiate conflict between family members.

Instructions

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      Set realistic expectations that are not pushy. Children in blended family situations will adjust in their own timeframe. Do not expect an overwhelming display of affection immediately, no matter how much effort you put forth.

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      Show patience toward a stepchild who is reluctant to trust you. A child who has been through a divorce tends to be reluctant toward trusting parental figures.

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      Create an open communication household environment. Children in blended families must feel that their opinions matter and that their presence is desired by all family members. An open line of communication may reduce children̵7;s acting out from feelings of unimportance or neglect.

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      Present the step parent as more of a counselor than a disciplinarian in the initial stages of the family̵7;s blending process.

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      Discuss family rules that everyone will abide by, then post them in a location where everyone can view them. Written rules void accusations of unfair treatment because they are visually available to everyone.

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      Argue or disagree with your spouse behind closed doors only, never in front of the children. Children of blended families must feel a sense of unity, not discord.

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