How to Raise Bubbly Kids
Every parent wants a child who is strong, resilient and happy, in other words, a bubbly child. Children who have bubbly personalities have the self-confidence to meet the world head on with smiles on their faces. Self-confidence is your child̵7;s ticket to social happiness and success, according to the AskDrSears website. Helping your child learn self-confidence and resilience is just like teaching any other skill. It takes time and patience -- but it can pay off with a lifetime of happiness.
Instructions
Learn the difference between temperament and personality. The two are not the same. Every child is born with his own individual way of approaching the world -- which is his temperament. Temperament is regarded as innate or inborn. A child's personality is acquired and develops on top of his temperament. If you think about your child̵7;s brain like a computer, temperament would be the hard drive and personality would be the programs he uses. Some children are just born quiet while others are born with a desire to be the center of attention. Understand that both extremes can be happy and confident in their own unique ways. This means that "bubbly" does not look the same on every child. Set a good example for self-confidence. Children who see parents who think highly of themselves learn that this is the norm. Children also learn to interpret situations by reading their parents' emotions. If you approach new situations with fear or apprehension, your child learns that this is how she should approach new experiences. Give your child lots of chances to make mistakes. Children don̵7;t learn confidence by always succeeding. The child who always succeeds learns to fear failure. Instead, allow your child to make safe mistakes. You can help your child through the disappointment of mistakes by praising the effort and helping him figure out what to try next. Only step in when the child is in danger. If your child asks for help, offer clues that will lead him to find his own solution. Help your child find ways to contribute. This can be as simple as helping around the house. Children learn that they are important when they are responsible for age-appropriate chores. A 2-year-old can pick up her toys, while a 4-year-old can set the table. Praise the child for a job well done. Don̵7;t go back and ̶0;fix̶1; a less than stellar job. Instead, show your child his mistake and praise him when he completes the job. Monitor relationships. Children learn from peers as well as from family. If your child sees a grumpy, spoiled friend get everything she wants, your child might try that behavior herself. Point out that different families handle moods in different ways, but in your house, grumpy doesn̵7;t work. Feel free to tell any playmates that grumpy doesn̵7;t work. Either the playmate will change, or will not feel welcome in your home.
