How to Help a Troubled Teenage Son

"Troubled teen̶1; is often used to describe teenage boys involved in drugs or other illegal activities, and those who hang out in the wrong social circles or have trouble adjusting to school and other social settings popular with young people.


In his book "The Good Teen," Richard M. Lerner, PH.D., a researcher in youth development, suggests that society stop labeling teens and setting unrealistic expectations on them. Beyond the labels, parents often carry unnecessary anxiety about their teenager by taking ownership of the youth's problems. There are ways to help a troubled teen and not be too burdensome.

Instructions

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      Listen and then talk to him, and find out whether or not the behavior is potentially destructive. Here are a few signs that indicate if your child needs help: trouble concentrating; sexual promiscuity; signs of depression; anxiety; drug and alcohol abuse; physically threatens others or himself; increased aggression; or constant running away from home.

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      Express your stance on your child̵7;s disagreeable behaviors. Tell him that drinking and stealing are not acceptable. Be firm, but not aggressive.

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      Show compassion and understanding toward your son. Tell him that you are here to help and not punish.

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      Seek a professional child psychologist or psychiatrist to get an appropriate diagnosis. Find information about a professional either through your employer's employee assistance program; via local or county mental health institutions; or from a local hospital or medical school. Make sure to get a professional who has appropriate adolescent training and experience. The psychiatrist can make a diagnosis and provide medication, whereas the psychologist (or a social worker) will use talk therapy.

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      Consult the opinion of local parenting, church and teen groups. Many churches have outreach programs for teens.

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      Make an appointment with the school counselor for you and your son. Ask the counselor if there are any school programs specifically to help rehabilitate troubled teens. Encourage your son to talk with the school counselor. You may also want to talk to his teachers and ask for their suggestions.

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