Parenting Strategies for Extinguishing Tantruming

Temper tantrums are a common behavior of children, particularly toddlers around ages two and three. Temper tantrums include such activities as yelling, kicking, crying and even throwing himself on the ground. One reason that children throw temper tantrums is that they are unable to express themselves verbally at this age. This is the way that they get your attention or express displeasure. While temper tantrums are common behavior exhibited by children, there are strategies that can help extinguish them.

  1. Room

    • One strategy that is appropriate for a preschooler or elementary school-aged child who is throwing a tantrum is to send her to her room to cool off. By this age, children have realized that they may be able to get what they want by throwing the tantrum. Explain to your child that she is to go to his room until she cools off and calms down. Once she does that, she can come out of her room. If she has a lot of toys and entertainment devices in her bedroom, consider using a different room such as a guest bedroom.

    Calm

    • Whatever the age of the child throwing the tantrum, it is crucial to stay calm, especially with a younger child or toddler. Even though it can be aggravating to manage your screaming child, maintaining control is important. Losing control and yelling, or even spanking, can just fuel your child's frustration. In the heat of the moment, take a deep breath and realize that it will be over soon.

    Demands

    • Resist giving into any demands that your child is making. A common scenario is where a young child wants a cookie. You tell him that he can't have one, and he throws a tantrum. When your child is screaming at the top of his lungs, you might be tempted to give into the demand. However, giving into that demand just teaches him that throwing a tantrum gets him what he wants. Do not give him a cookie during or after the tantrum. Instead, wait until he calms down and feel free to soothe him and let him know that you are glad that he has calmed down.

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