How to Handle Parenting Criticism

Criticism of a person's parenting methods, even when the criticism is well intended and potentially helpful, can be difficult for some people to deal with. Parenting critics may be anyone from a child's teacher to another parent at the playground, but usually, the critics are close friends or relatives. Criticism might make you feel like you're not performing up to par as a parent, but there are times when it can be useful. Whether the criticism is constructive, misguided or downright negative, there are some steps you can take to effectively deal with any criticism that comes your way.

Instructions

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      Remain calm. Reacting to parenting criticism might lead to a heated argument or worse. Remember, the critic has the right to her opinion, and you don't owe her an explanation. If the other party is rational, try educating her on your perspective to spark an interesting debate. If the person is a faultfinder who seems to obsess over all your perceived flaws, respectfully end the conversation and move on.

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      Accept that the parenting styles of your parents or in-laws likely differ from yours because of how they were raised. Family dynamics have changed drastically over the past few decades, and many older parents have not embraced modern parenting ideas. If the critic is an older parent who cares about you and your child, she likely has your best interest at heart. Instead of arguing, keep your parenting conversations centered around the childcare practices you agree on. Whenever your parenting ideas differ, simply agree to disagree.

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      Determine if the criticism is warranted. Perfect parents do not exist, so it never hurts to double-check your parenting approach after receiving criticism, especially if the critic is someone who truly cares. Oftentimes, loved ones can open your eyes to parenting issues you weren't even aware of, prompting you to make changes that can lead to more effective parenting. Instead of quickly dismissing parenting criticism, consider the source of the criticism and try to find value in it.

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      Ignore mean-spirited parenting critics. Negative, pessimistic people often criticize for the satisfaction of pointing out other people's flaws. It's also common for individuals to criticize others out of jealousy. Do not defend or explain yourself to anyone whose sole agenda is to make you feel bad. Recognize that the person is likely projecting his insecurities on you, and don't take the criticism personally.

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