How to Break Codependency in Children

Codependency in children is often a result of emotional issues that stem from abandonment or from their basic needs not having been met at some point in their lives. Traits of codependency include low self-esteem, denial, control issues, excessive compliance and excessive anxiety about how others feel and how they view you. Codependent children may worry about angering you, may not be able to identify their emotions and may not feel as though they can do anything "good enough." They may also strive to get attention and love in unhealthy ways.

Instructions

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      Establish trust in your relationship with your child. The child must know that you will provide for her basic needs. This means responding to a child when she cries, validating her feelings and making her feel loved and important.

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      Allow your child to have independence when appropriate. Give your child the freedom to choose what to wear. Allow him to try new foods. Give him choices when deciding on the day's activity.

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      Empower your child. Make your child feel that she is important, lovable and worthwhile. You can do this by complimenting a job well done, affirming her ideas and listening to what she has to say.

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      Build your child's self-esteem. Point out your child's talents. Compliment him when he behaves appropriately.

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      Set healthy rules and limits. Expect your child to follow a routine, help with daily chores and to behave a certain way. Reinforce these behaviors with positive comments.

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      Discuss your child's emotions often. Help her realize it's OK to feel the way she feels. Do not get angry when she expresses her emotions.

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      Consult your pediatrician about the possibility of therapy to support positive behaviors and thinking.

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