How to Get a Child to Talk Softly

Sometimes it may be difficult for a child to understand when it is appropriate to speak softly, and when it is okay to speak loudly. Teaching children the concept of the "inside voice" can take time, but try to be patient and understand that your child is still learning how to control his vocal chords. She will respond best to positive re-enforcement, and firm instruction and reasoning, rather than anger or punishment.

Instructions

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      Walk to the child when speaking to him, so that you are not shouting to him across the house. If the child hears you shouting in the house, she may get the wrong idea that she can shout in the house as well.

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      Speak to your child with a low voice, even if you are upset. If the child sees that you shout when you are upset, he may begin to shout whenever he is upset.

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      Point out to your child when she is shouting. When you do so, say it in an "inside voice" so the child can compare her voice level with yours. If she can't hear you, she will see your lips moving and quiet down.

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      Ask your child questions regarding his loud voice, such as: does it distract you when others are talking loudly and you're trying to focus and work? Why? Do you like being talked over? This will help him to understand that he doesn't like loud voices and so he shouldn't speak so loudly all the time.

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      Have your child practice both inside and outside voices. Give her an example of each, and let her practice both of them. Give her a structured amount of time when each voice is allowed. For example, during homework, dinner or evening times she should use her inside voice. During free time and outside play time, allow her to use her outside voice.

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      Give your child the attention he seeks only when he is using the appropriate voice range. If he is shouting, crying and yelling to get attention, ignore it and tell him to lower his voice to an inside voice, and only then will you acknowledge his wants or needs. Once he begins speaking in an appropriate volume, reward him with what he asks for and positive attention.

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