How to Make a Timid Child Bold

You take your reluctant preschooler to a birthday party and she hides in the corner as you watch the other children laugh and play. Although you may worry this behavior is unusual in a toddler or young child, timidity or shyness is not necessarily uncommon. Children who are shy may lack confidence, be easily frightened and be more hesitant to approach situations than their peers. According to the website Ask Dr. Sears, shyness is not a fault, but a personality trait; however, it can also become a crutch for children who choose to hide behind it and don't develop social skills. If you feel a lack of assertiveness is inhibiting your child̵7;s growth, you can help by taking steps to increase his assertiveness.

  1. Socialization

    • Invite your child̵7;s friends over for parties, sleepovers or play dates. Create safe situations in which your child interacts with others, and praise her for any steps she takes toward developing socialization skills. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends helping shy children develop skills such as using humor, managing anger, sharing and sticking up for a friend to encourage more successful peer interactions.

    Build Self-Esteem

    • Give your child opportunities to excel at things she does well in order to build self-esteem and increase confidence. Help her build a skill in an area where she is able to form a bond with a group. It may be helpful to involve your timid child in sports or other group activities so he will develop common interests with kids his age.

    Modeling

    • According to John Malouff, Ph.D. and senior lecturer in psychology at the University of New England, you can help children overcome being shy or timid by showing empathy and modeling outgoing behavior for them. Socialize with friends regularly, and have an overall friendly demeanor toward others in order to model bold behavior for your child.

    Practice Makes Perfect

    • According to Teen Health, people who are shy may have a tendency to be hard on themselves and not give themselves enough time to practice social behaviors before they give up. Have your child practice in the mirror, with you and with trusted friends or family. In addition, let them know they are not alone and that it is perfectly normal to feel awkward in social situations.

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