How to Help a Boy Deal With Bullies

Bullying is an unfortunate yet common occurrence for many children. According to StopBullying.gov, boys and girls experience similar rates of bullying when it comes to verbal bullying, threats and property damage, but boys are more likely to be victims of physical bullying. However, you don't have to feel like there is nothing you can do about it. Take a proactive approach and intervene when necessary to better the situation.

Instructions

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      Recognize the signs of bullying. They aren't always easy to spot, but according to the website Help Guide, they may include sudden changes in mood, having nightmares, a decline in academic performance, social withdrawal and physical complaints.

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      Tell your son that he should inform you if he's being bullied. Many children don't let adults know when they are being bullied. If you suspect that your child is a victim of a bully, gently ask him to tell you about it. Assure him that the bullying is not his fault. Let him know that it's safe to talk about his concerns and feelings.

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      Encourage him to either ignore, walk away from or calmly tell the bully he's not interested in hearing what the bully has to say. Bullies engage in negative and destructive behavior because they enjoy feeling powerful over others. If your son chooses not to engage with the bully, the bully loses power and interest in continuing his behavior.

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      Role play scenarios with your son to help him practice effective ways he can respond to bullies, suggests WebMD. Ask him to tell you what happens when a bully approaches him and how he normally responds. Discuss some of the ways that he might handle that situation differently. He could respond to the bully by simply and firmly saying something like, "Stop picking on me -- leave me alone," suggests Jodi Campbell, supervisor of public education, clinical training and development for the KidsPeace Institute.

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      Keep a record of the details your son shares with you. Note the date, time and actions that occurred. A written record helps you keep track of events so you will be well-prepared to discuss the problem with school administrators or other involved professionals. Report physical attacks to school officials and the police, advises the Mayo Clinic.

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      Help increase your son's self-esteem. According to psychologist Dr. Laura Markam, PhD, in an article on her website, Aha! Parenting.com, ensuring that your son has high self-esteem and supportive home relationships helps prevent bullying. Encourage him to develop his unique talents and strengths, praise him for his achievements and accomplishments and let him know how much you love him.

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