How to Make Kids Feel Loved

You know that you love your child and would do anything for him. However that emotion may not always be fully understood by him. A child who feels loved will develop a high self-concept of himself which will make him feel worthwhile and capable of great things, according to the University of Florida Extension. The bonding process where children first feel parental love begins when they are just infants. When parents care for babies lovingly, giving plenty of eye contact and touch, those babies start to feel loved.

  1. Focus on Your Child

    • Children often have needs at the most inopportune moments. If you are busy when your child is talking to you, it is likely you are not fully listening. Whenever possible you should take advantage of these moments, because as your child becomes a teenager, they typically diminish. Make every effort to stop what you're doing and really listen to what your child has to say. If you can't, acknowledge in some way that you understand she needs your attention and will focus on her as soon as you can. Making eye contact when discussing things with your child will show her she has your attention.

    Encourage Your Child's Interests

    • Notice what your child likes to do, and encourage him to spend time doing it. Make sure it's something he really enjoys and is not just something you want him to do. Then be your child's biggest fan. Go to his practices, games and performances, but avoid being judgmental or critical of your child's skill level. When he starts to get better at something he enjoys and knows you support, his confidence grow.

    Catch Your Child Doing Something Good

    • It's often easy for parents to point out when a child has done something bad and easy to forget to point out when something good happens. When you notice that your child has put effort into a task, whether it is complete or not, point out that you have recognized it and are proud of the effort. This can be a perfect time to give him a hug or a pat on the back. Your praise should be honest, though. If you overdo the compliments, not only may he see though your praise but he may also develop an inflated sense of self according to KidsHealth.

    Plan Fun Time with Just the Two of You

    • Plan a special time away with your child, such as a monthly date, says Today's Parent. Let your child decide what she wants to do. Spending time having fun one-on-one with her is one way to show you value her. The activity doesn't have to be elaborate or cost a lot. The two of you can bond by simply picking apples, getting ice cream or going on a nature hike together. What is important is that the two of you share special moments and memories. However, it is vital to make every effort to keep the promises you make to spend time together. Breaking this type of promise can be a huge disappointment to a child and cause trust issues in the future.

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