Crying During Preschool

Separation Anxiety Facts

• The American Academy of Pediatrics says separation anxiety starts to occur around 10 months and gradually fades by the end of your child̵7;s second year. During this time, your child believes that when you leave you disappear and is not sure that you will return. Separation anxiety rears its head again at times when your child experiences new changes. A good example is when you drop your child off for preschool for the first time. Your child has different ways of expressing fear when you leave. Tears are just one way your child lets you know he doesn̵7;t want you to go.

Projecting Warmth

• The simplest way to manage separation anxiety is to project safety, love and warmth by smiling, hugging your child and walking away without much fuss. If you carry on, your child will, too. While you may be feeling worried and sad about leaving your child in preschool the first day, you don̵7;t want to let your child know this. Tell him you will return to pick him up in no time at all and smile on your way out. This will help him feel more secure. Reinforce this feeling by establishing a consistent drop off routine with your toddler.

Practice

• Sometimes practicing your departure at home will prepare your child ahead of time for your absence. Try leaving the room for a short time and returning so your child becomes accustomed to the idea that you will return. This will establish in your child̵7;s mind the idea that when you leave, you will come back. Remember to continue to hug your child, smile and perform the same actions you would if you were dropping him off at preschool.

Provide a Lovey

• If you can, leave your child with a lovey, such as a favorite stuffed animal, or a preferred blanket from home. Your child may be able to nap with them. You might even be able to give him a t-shirt of yours to take with him. Your child can attach himself to one of the items to help him feel more secure when you are not there.