How to Get a Toddler to Listen & Obey

Children rely on parents to teach the rules of the world, what is wrong and what is right. However, teaching a child obedience and listening skills is extremely challenging. Children at the toddler level ren are just beginning to discover the world on their own by walking, talking and getting ready for school or preschool. Always remember to use patience and present a united front among you and your co-parent. This will encourage consistency and avoid confusion while instilling obedience and listening skills in your toddler.

Instructions

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      Speak firmly. A toddler can sense the tone of your voice. If you giggle or seem shaky, your child will probably not respond. Say "no" in a firm and disengaging tone to relay that this is not a game, and you are not playing.

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      Avoid empty threats of punishment. If you constantly threaten a visit to the timeout chair or grounding from a toy but do not actually perform the action, your child will rarely obey you. Follow through with punishments when the actions of your child warrant discipline.

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      Display appropriate behavior. Toddlers require visual references as well as verbal. Show your child the acceptable alternative to the undesired behavior he is presenting. Physical intervention is key at this stage in your child's development.

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      Provide positive reinforcement. Your child needs to be told when she is misbehaving as well as when she is behaving appropriately. Rewards, treats and words of encouragement will reinforce your toddler that what he is doing is appreciated and will also result in attention from mommy and daddy.

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      Encourage interaction in teaching lessons and rules. Ask questions and provide examples.

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      Incorporate song and other measures into lessons. For example, try making up a song to make cleaning the room more fun. If you lack creative abilities, television shows such as Barney and The Big Comfy Couch have excellent examples of cleanup songs.

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