How to Handle Toddler Meltdowns

Toddler meltdowns can start in an instant, but taming your little one's tantrum often takes a bit of work. When frustration levels are high, it can be difficult to remember that small children aren't always in control of their emotions. Keep in mind that most children outgrow temper tantrums by age 5, according to the Mayo Clinic, so this isn't a problem you'll be dealing with forever.

Things You'll Need

  • A few small toys

Instructions

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      Distract your child from the source of frustration. Keep a few favorite toys in the diaper bag to bring out when you notice a toddler tantrum beginning. Sometimes quick action can halt the meltdown before it gets out of control.

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      Stay calm. Your attitude will often affect whether the meltdown lasts for just a few seconds or for many tortuous minutes, so keeping cool is essential.

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      Determine the source of the tantrum. Before preschool, many tantrums are not manipulative, so don't automatically presume your child is using tantrums to get his way. Toddlers may become frustrated because of an unforeseen disappointment, such as a rainy day that derails your plans to go to the playground, or because their emotions are too strong for their mental capabilities to handle.

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      Ignore your toddler's minor meltdown. As long as she isn't hurting herself or others, you can safely ignore her screams and cries. Don't leave her alone, but continue with your own activities until she works out her frustration.

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      Offer comfort to ease disappointments. If your child is having a meltdown because of overwhelming emotions, speaking softly and offering a hug or cuddles may help him express his disappointment in a more acceptable way. Kneeling down to get at his eye level and expressing empathy can also sometimes halt displays of anger.

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      Remove your toddler from a public place or dangerous situation, if necessary. If the tantrum has grown out of control in mere seconds or your child is hitting people or things, you may have to physically remove her from the area and bring her to a safe place, such as a car or bathroom.

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