How to Help a Teen Handle a Difficult Teacher
Great teachers inspire and motivate, but your teen could be facing a troublesome year at school because of a difficult teacher. It's important to help minimize the possible damage. Although teens tend to get emotional and might prefer to lash out or withdraw from challenging interactions with a problematic teacher, it is possible to help them channel their energies in a positive direction and learn to make the best of the situation.
Instructions
Ask your teen to describe exactly what the teacher says and does that is problematic. Listen carefully to determine whether the teacher seems to be a nice person who just can't explain the material or seems to have a personality problem and is mean to the students. Don't immediately express anger toward the teacher. It's important to show support for your child, but remember that you should hear the teacher's point of view before you respond. Take notes while listening to your teen so you'll have the information you'll need to pursue the matter if you decide it's necessary. Suggest that your teen approach the teacher for extra help after school. Some teachers who have difficulty teaching large groups might be more effective one-on-one. The department head or your teen's teacher from a previous grade might also be able to help. Explain to your child why it's important to learn how to deal successfully with difficult people. Advise your teen to be polite and respectful at all times with all teachers, including the difficult ones. Tell your teen that staying calm and behaving properly, even when provoked, is an important social skill that's useful throughout life. Remind your teen about the importance of punctuality as well as preparing for every class. All homework should be completed and all books, supplies and equipment must be brought to every class. Even difficult teachers usually appreciate excellent student behavior and respond favorably. Explain to your teen that the teacher's hostility is probably not personal. Some teachers have high expectations and express disappointment when the expectations aren't met. Chances are this teacher loses patience with most students who disappoint. Suggest your teen make an appointment to see the school guidance counselor if the situation doesn't improve. Help your teen prepare to explain the problem with the teacher without making insulting or disparaging remarks. Arrange a meeting with the teacher if the difficulty continues. Raise the concerns your teen shared with you. Try not to accuse or blame the teacher. Listen to what the teacher has to say. Focus the discussion on what you and the teacher can do together to help improve the situation. Keep the lines of communication open with your teen. Check to see if the situation is improving. If it doesn't improve, speak to a school administrator.