How to Deal With Rude Teens

Rude behavior by teenagers can be an source of stress to a family. Inappropriate teenage behavior, in public or at gatherings of extended family, can distract from family celebrations. While it may be tempting to loose your cool when confronted with a disrespectful teen, set aside time to establish boundaries and consequences with teens. Signed contracts designating a reasonable code of respectful conduct for both parents and teenagers can hold teens to behavioral standards.

Instructions

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      Allow your teen talk about his source of frustration. Ask about sources of stress and frustration that may lead to rude behavior toward family members. An impending homework assignment may lead to resentment about having to participate in a family outing. Establish a culture of communication in which the teenager is able to express his emotions in a productive, solution-focused manner. Open communication and active listening by parents can prevent rude behavior by teens.

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      Develop a written contract. Assign both parents and teenagers to record a reasonable standard of behavior. Parents may require teenagers to complete all chores and homework assignments without complaint, and attend four family dinners per week. Teenagers may request a once-weekly curfew extension and that parents refrain from raising their voices. Reach an agreement on this contract, type it and sign it. Hang it up in a visible location, such as the front of a refrigerator.

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      Agree upon consequences for misbehavior or rudeness that violates the previously established code of conduct. Parents may develop a list of meaningful privileges that can be revoked for a day, week or month as a consequence for rude behavior. Social outings, electronics and pocket money could all be taken away as a form of punishment. Establish a consistent criteria for revoking privileges in response to unacceptable behavior.

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