Parenting With Love and Logic

The purpose of parenting with love and logic is to give them the tools they will need to survive and thrive in society. As parents, you understand that one day your children will grow up and no longer require your guidance. This should be your goal. You want to develop confidence and independence in your child.

  1. Build Character and Develop Skills

    • Focus on helping your child develop five important character traits: courage, self-esteem, responsibility, cooperation and respect. You should also help them develop skills that will help them succeed in life, such as problem-solving, communication, anger management and academic success. Developing these characteristics and personal skills provides them with a strong foundation that helps them resist turning to tobacco, alcohol, violence or sexuality as the answer to life's problems.

    Develop a Strong Relationship

    • Parenting with love and logic leads to developing a quality relationship with your child. If you develop a negative relationship, you child will reject your ideas and suggestions--even the good ones. Rebellion is the way a child shows that they have their own opinions and refuse to be pushed around. Rebellion can potentially result in experimentation with drugs, promiscuity or violence as they intentionally reject your values.

      Parenting with love and logic can reduce the likelihood of dealing with these kinds of risks while still giving you the authority needed to lead the family.

    Filter out Negative Influences

    • You cannot to spend every waking moment with your children, but you can still be a major influence in their lives. According to the Center for Substance Abuse Prevention (CSAP), there are certain risk factors children face, but parents can develop ways to counteract them.

      Encourage your children to have positive exposure to adult mentors. These can be youth group leaders, coaches, teachers, relatives or your adult friends. Place restrictions on media exposure by reviewing ratings on movies and games and monitoring television and Internet use. Keep TVs and computers in public areas of the house so that you can see what's being viewed. Choose the best schools you can for your kids so that they are exposed to a good educational environment. Also make sure to emphasize the family unit by regularly designating family time and family events.

    Discuss Risks and Develop a Plan

    • As you develop a positive relationship with your child, make sure to discuss the risks involved with choosing drugs, sex or violence. Try to persuade them to understand your point of view on these topics because discipline alone will not be enough to help them make the right choices.

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