Types of Behaviors Parents Have Towards Children

Authoritarian Parenting

• Authoritarian parenting is best described as a "parents-know-best" approach. Parents who behave in this way toward their children are likely to be old-fashioned in their views, unwilling to create a democratic household and expect the utmost respect from their offspring. The problem with this parenting style is that there is no room for flexibility, and this can have an adverse effect on the emotional connection between parent and child. Preteens and adolescents in particular need to be given some freedom to experiment and make their own mistakes, and an authoritarian parenting style is simply not compatible with this.

Permissive Parenting

• Permissive parenting gives more control to the children, because parents are scared or worn out to upset their youngsters. At its most extreme, this type of parenting behavior indulges a child's every wish, and can lead to spoilt, impatient, demanding youngsters. Generally, permissive parenting stems from a deep sense of love for a child, which of course is a positive thing, but it fails to take into account the long term consequences of the behavior. By taking a moment to consider how this parenting style will affect a child in five, ten or twenty years, permissive parents can teach themselves to be a little stricter.

Authoritative Parenting

• Authoritative parenting is generally viewed as the most healthy parenting style, as it combines clear guidelines and consistent reinforcement of positive behavior with plenty of love and affection. Authoritative parents still have high expectations of their children, but they are acutely aware of their own behavior, and recognize that all children, no matter how they behave, should be treated with patience and empathy. This way of behaving toward your children is possibly the most difficult and demanding, as it requires a great deal of effort, energy and self-control, but it is also the most rewarding.

When Parenting Styles Conflict

• If parents behave in different ways toward their children, a few pointers can help them find common ground. The first step is to talk about the differences, when the children aren't present. Arguing in front of kids can be extremely destructive, so it's important for both parties to stay calm and agree to resume the conversation when the children are out of earshot. A frank, open discussion is a good starting point. If a compromise can't be reached, a couple should consider going to a counseler to help them understand why they behave the way they do toward their children and how they can work together for the benefit of the whole family.