How to Avoid Arguments With a Child With Asperger Syndrome

Children with Asperger Syndrome have difficulty understanding social cues and consequently can appear pushy and argumentative, according to the National Alliance On Mental Illness. AS is considered a high functioning form of autism, and it often presents symptoms including difficulty interacting socially, repeating behaviors and clumsiness. Children with AS often want to interact and have friends and can become frustrated and confused by an inability to read social cues and connect. This frustration can lead to meltdowns and arguments. Knowing how to avoid such arguments will help reduce everybody's stress levels.

Things You'll Need

  • List of cues

Instructions

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      Observe and intercept when signs of meltdown appear. Step in to redirect or intervene when you see a child with AS becoming increasingly frustrated during interaction with others. Teach others to recognize the signs of a pending meltdown and how to redirect as well. Redirect the child to an activity he is interested in that is calming in nature. For example, if he has a favorite book, suggest you two read it together.

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      Understand the foundation of the argument. According to Barbara R. Lester, LCSW, children with AS are prone to arguing due to their narrow focus on interests. Instead of trying to convince your child to be interested elsewhere, use the opportunity to reward him. For example, if you need him to make his bed, tell him that as soon as he makes his bed, he can spend 10 minutes telling you all about his trains.

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      Consider medication. For children who have extreme issues with temper control, a discussion with a pediatrician about medications may help. There are various mood stabilizers designed to reduce aggression and impulsiveness.

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      Maintain consistent routines. Children with AS often feel fear and frustration when routines change, according to the University of Michigan's report, "Understanding the Student With Asperger's Syndrome." Have a consistent schedule for daily routines. If it must be deviated from, calmly tell the child as early as possible that a change is necessary, why and what it will be.

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      Keep a list of alternatives in the child's possession. Many children with AS respond positively to written cues. Give your child a list of two or three self-calming instructions to read when he feels his temper rising. For example: 1. Hum your favorite song; 2. Ask to speak with the school counselor; 3. Say something nice to somebody.

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