How to Treat a Live-In Nanny

Nannies are employees, but, if they mesh well with your family, they become a part of the fabric of your daily life. Because your relationship with your nanny, and that of your children, can be very close, it is important that you maintain the boundaries that will allow you to feel comfortable. You should also keep your nanny happy by showing her respect and kindness. Clear limits and mutual respect will help you keep your relationship with your nanny healthy and pleasant.

Things You'll Need

  • Scheduling calendar

Instructions

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      Build your relationship on the basis of compatibility; before you bring the nanny inside your home, ensure that she keeps similar hours and upholds similar values. Establish routines that you can both keep, and don̵7;t vary from them. Decide which responsibilities will go to the parents and which will go to the nanny, and stick to them.

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      Talk with your partner and determine what the nanny̵7;s role in your family will be. Answer questions about off time, family time and what your family̵7;s relationship with the nanny will be -- whether you treat her like another member of the family or an employee -- then act accordingly. Do not blur the lines, as this isn̵7;t fair to the nanny.

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      Make boundaries clear. Set aside a space that is completely for the nanny̵7;s use -- usually a bedroom and bathroom -- and make clear which spaces are for your use only. Respect and uphold these boundaries, but don̵7;t be uptight about shared spaces or the nanny may not feel welcome and could have a more difficult time bonding with and caring for your children.

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      Maintain an open line of communication. Let your nanny know that you want to hear her concerns, and share any you may have immediately. Do not let resentments or problems build up, as you may not be able to solve them before they destroy the relationship.

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      Give your nanny a hand with scheduling, rather than expecting her to read your mind or ask the kids. Keep a calendar in a common area like the kitchen or dining room with all important dates and times on it, like events, classes, after-school activities and playdates.

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      Treat your nanny well. Let her know you care with end-of-the-year bonuses, snacks, treats and other small forms of consideration. Always respect her vacations and evenings off.

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