How to Be Positive with Children

Being positive with children is not always easy. Children can be whiny, demanding, moody and irrational. Being positive with children is so important because ultimately it will foster in them a positive attitude toward life. It's well worth the effort. Besides, what we teach children we will get back years later. Read on to consider these simple steps about how to be positive with children.

Things You'll Need

  • Positive attitude

Instructions

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      Acknowledge inappropriate behavior. Sometimes children simply don't understand appropriate behavior. They need to have limits set on their behavior. As parents and caregivers it is our job to acknowledge inappropriate behavior. We need to acknowledge inappropriate behavior in a calm, direct manner. For example, Jack is playing at the park and throws sand at another child. Jack needs to be told why that behavior is inappropriate. It's not nice to throw sand and it could harm the other child.

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      Redirect inappropriate behavior and offer positive alternatives. Sometimes kids act inappropriately because they are bored or don't know any better. Children need to be redirected to more positive behavior choices. For example, don't yell at Jack from the park bench. Walk over to the child and gain his attention. Suggest using a shovel to move the sand into the pail. Consider bringing Jack away from the sand if the behavior continues.

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      Be nice to children. Sometimes kids seem to be mean or aggressive because that is how their caregivers are with them. Spend time with the child and really take an interest in what matters to them. You may not share a passion for firetrucks but you can spend 15 minutes role playing with a toy truck or take the child to a fire station. You can also visit the library for related books and videos. Being nice to children teaches them to be nice back and when people are nice it is a lot easier to be positive.

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      Use positive language and be a positive role model. The best way to be positive with children is to set a positive example. Make a commitment around children not to swear, raise your voice or use other negative language. By being a positive role model you set the standard of what is means to be positive. On your way to the park with Jack let him know what good behavior is and what you expect from him. You must speak in the most positive way using words like: this is how we treat each other or let's be kind to others at the playground. If you say to Jack "Don't you dare misbehave at the playground," for example, you have set a negative tone and model. Be positive and choose positive language.

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      Expect kids to do as you do not as you say. When you interact with your friends or spouse be positive. Children will do what we do not what we say. Make sure your actions are positive and they will follow. You can't expect your child to be positive when you are constantly yelling at those around you. You can't be positive with children when you are argumentative with everyone else.

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