How to Discipline a Screaming Child

When a child starts screaming and won't stop or take no for an answer, many parents are left at their wits' end. It can be tempting to respond with anger, force or threats. But even after your better judgment kicks in, the dilemma remains. When your child throws a temper tantrum, whether in your own home or in public, you'll need a strategy for calming him or her that is effective and reliable, without being cruel.

Instructions

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      Remain calm. Don't respond to screaming and temper tantrums with yelling of your own. You are your child's most powerful role model, and if they see you respond to anger with anger, they will only learn that this anger is acceptable. Your child learns from your example. Don't lose your temper when dealing with your screaming child. Take deep breaths and hold back your frustration.

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      Address your child calmly but firmly. Tell them that yelling and screaming is against the rules. If your child is very young, you might help them verbalize the feelings that are causing this tantrum. Young children may act out because they lack the language skills to express their emotions in other ways. You might say, "I know you are feeling upset because..."

      Then listen to what your child says. Let your child know you understand how they are feeling.

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      Remind your child of the rules in a level voice: no yelling, screaming or losing their temper. Then suggest a more appropriate way for your child to deal with this situation, other than anger.

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      Put your child in time-out if the above steps are ineffective or if you need to quiet them immediately. Your child may be too upset to respond to the steps above right away. Find a quiet corner or other space and have your child sit there until he or she can be calm again. Then try the above method for verbalizing their feelings.

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      Discipline your child if necessary. Again, don't resort to forceful or physical punishments, but if your child has broken a rule, give an effective punishment. The best punishment strategies are to take away a privilege, such as watching TV or going on the computer, or an extended time-out in their room.

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