How to Determine if Your Child is Seeking Attention

One of the most frustrating things a parent can experience is having a smart child who refuses to listen or put forth effort. There are reasons for bad behavior, but it is up to the parent to determine what is causing it and how to correct it. A child who is seeking attention of any kind is a child who will have problems as an adult if the issue at hand isn't corrected. If your child refuses to follow directions or rules and you are certain there is nothing physically or mentally wrong with him, then he may be a child who simply wants bad attention rather than no attention at all. Here are some things to look for when you suspect your child is seeking bad attention.

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      Consistent behavioral problems, especially at a young age, are a sign that something is wrong. Once you have consulted your physician and have been assured there is nothing physically or mentally wrong, it is time to consider the possibility that he is simply seeking attention of any kind, be it bad or good.

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      If, by a reasonable age, she still refuses to abide by family rules for no apparent reason, you have a problem child who is most likely seeking someone's attention. At this point you must be honest with yourself and ask if it is possible she is disturbed due to marital problems, a change in the family structure or a recent occurrence.

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      If he won't communicate and is evasive when asked simple questions, this is a sure sign he is pulling away. You are about to lose him and you must take action. Family counseling is certainly something to consider and most probably necessary.

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      Pay attention. It is possible that in a conflict-intact family or a step-family, with step-siblings or half-siblings, there is jealousy and resentment that she feels but doesn't understand. In this day and age, step-families are commonplace but this doesn't mean it is easily or instantly accepted by your child. Jealousy of a sibling can lead a child to seek bad attention rather than feel he is being slighted.

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      A single parent home can be a nesting ground for a confused child who needs attention. Life is hard for a single parent trying to make ends meet and many times they must work two jobs. If this is the case, find a way to make time for your child. Chances are he feels the situation is partly his fault, so discuss the circumstances with him but assure him you will take time with him. Don't be afraid to explain how you may need help. When he follows through be sure to praise him, giving him good attention. Small things go a long way with children and it will help him to know he is contributing to the family.

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      If she is getting in trouble at home but nowhere else, chances are she is seeking your attention. If she can follow rules elsewhere she can do it at home. Take notice of these facts and spend time with her. Talk to her to find out what is on her mind. Explain that she doesn't have to get into trouble to get your attention. If she is old enough to discuss feelings with understanding but refuses to do so, it is time to seek professional help.

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