How to Accept a Child's Likes And Dislikes

If you're expecting your child to be just like you, it might be time for a reality check. Although she came from your body, she is her own person. Instead of convincing your child to be who you want her to be, enjoy getting to know who she is. Keep in mind that your child will spend more years as an adult than as a child; your willingness to accept her now will help maintain a strong bond later.

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      Release your expectations about the things your child should or should not like. Acknowledge that your child is an individual, not a miniature version of yourself. Although she has only been on the earth a few years, she has her own personality, preferences and desires. Keep in mind how you felt when you were a child. Did you know what you liked and didn̵7;t like? Did you want people to respect you, even though you were small? Treat your child how you would have wanted to be treated.

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      Take time to understand your child̵7;s likes and dislikes. For example, find out why she likes to wear tiger stripes with polka dots -- maybe she̵7;s pretending to be a mystic, cartoon animal. Perhaps her choices make her feel more powerful or adventurous. Maybe she̵7;s emulating something she admired on TV or a magazine. Seek to understand, rather than change. Displaying an open, empathetic attitude will help strengthen your relationship.

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      Appreciate your child for having a clear understanding of her own preferences, especially if her choices go against the choices of others. Many kids -- and subsequently, adults -- follow the popular opinion of the crowd without stopping to find out who they are as individuals. Applaud your child for honoring her own individuality. Congratulate yourself for raising a strong, confident, well-defined person.

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      Don̵7;t be afraid. Just because your child has tastes and preferences that you don̵7;t share doesn̵7;t indicate you're doing a poor job of parenting. It isn̵7;t your job to mold your child into who you want her to be; it̵7;s your job to provide a healthy, nurturing environment in which she can safely discover who she is. Shower your child with unconditional love and acceptance.

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