How to Get Your Adult Child to Move Out

Make Your Wishes Clear

Make it clear to your adult child that you want them to move out and start living a life on their own. You need to do this before all other steps so that it is clear to them what your objectives are. During this step, make sure that you approach this discussion in a kind and gentle manner. There is no need to turn it into a confrontation or debate. It doesn't even need to last more than a minute. Just make sure that it is understood that you want them to move out.

Also, let them know that they have to be out by a predetermined time and that they need to have found a place to live by then. Be certain to stick with your original move out date, they cannot say you didn't warn them.

Make Things Uncomfortable

Make it clear to your adult child that you want them to move out and start living a life on their own. You need to do this before all other steps so that it is clear what the objectives are. During this step make sure that you approach a discussion in a kind manner. There is no need to turn it into a confrontation or debate. It doesn't even need to last more than a minute. Just make sure that it is understood that you want them to move out.

A popular first step to actively get you kids out of the house is to start making things less convenient for them. The main reason why they stay is because it's convenient. I mean it's nice to have room and board paid for, with free food and little to no responsibilities. A good way to counter this is to begin charging them for room and board so that they understand that there is now a price attached to living at home. Make sure that the rent reflects the going price for a rented room in your neighbourhood.

Other ways to make thing less convenient it is to start adding responsibilities associated with living at home. Make them go out and purchase their own food. Give them chores that will make your life easier; like taking out the trash, cleaning, dishes, cooking, mow the lawn, etc...

The point of this step is to make sure that your child understands that there is now a cost attached to living at home. When there a cost fixed to this, moving out and living on their own begins to look more appealing.

Make Things Unbearable

By now your adult child should begin to understand that living at home is now less desirable than living on their own. With a little encouragement they will realise that the cost of staying at home now outweigh what they would have to pay if they lived in their own place. For many this is a no brainer, 'time to move out'. If not, than you need to take it to the next step.

You need to realise that that is your home, and now that your children are old enough to take care of themselves, they are no longer your responsibility. Take that to heart and begin to live your life. Walk around the house naked or in your underwear if you want; invite over the local church group for extended visits; throw parties; stay up late; or wake up early and make lots of noise; they will take the hint.

If all of your cunning attempts to make things uncomfortable for your child go to waste than it's now time for the final straw.

Final Straw

If all previous attempts of coercion fail it's now time for the final step. It's time now to kick them out! Don't be scared. Your kids are not going to end up on the street. Chances are, they are going to stay at a friend's house until they finally find an apartment on their own.

Before you start to freak out about the thought of throwing them out realise that you are just demonstrating some tough love and they will appreciate it later. Plus, throwing out one adult child will be allot easier than throwing out your adult child and his family once they have nested in your basement.