Teens Who Feel Rejected

Rejection stings for anyone, but teenagers can be especially vulnerable to the resulting pain. When your teenager feels rejected, she̵7;s going to need some support to help her through the unpleasant aftermath. Although it̵7;s impossible to avoid rejection in life, with a positive outlook, your teenager can bounce back and look for new avenues to conquer.

  1. Different Rejections

    • Rejections can come about from a variety of sources and may occur at any age. Your teen may experience peer rejection, romantic rejection, academic rejection or organized sports rejection, also employment and even family rejection. Bullying and ostracizing are common examples of peer rejection and can lead to uncomfortable feelings of rejection in an adolescent.

    The Feelings

    • Feelings associated with rejection can be devastating for a teenager. A teen may experience anxiety, depression, reduced self-esteem, embarrassment, anger, hurt, frustration, sadness, disappointment and isolation, states the TeensHealth website. When a teenager struggles with rejection, you can help by encouraging her to think about how she feels, name the feelings and accept that she feels unhappy in connection with the rejection.

    Parental Rejection

    • Experience with parental rejection may be one of your teenager̵7;s worst nightmares come true. Although your intention may not involve rejection, if you punish her by withholding your love or respect, you could cause significant anger, hurt and confusion. Even when a teenager pushes your buttons, makes choices you don't support or acts as if she doesn̵7;t need you, stay lovingly involved to maintain a strong connection. Your disapproval of choices or conduct should be entirely separate from your love for your teen, counsels psychologist Carl Pickhardt, with the "Psychology Today" website.

    Bouncing Back

    • As you support your teen, help him bounce back and move forward after a rejection. Spend time talking about putting forth effort to try to attain goals ̵1; as long as he tries as hard as he can, he can feel proud of his efforts and the results, regardless of rejection. If peer or romantic relationships led to rejection, talk about the value of being true to himself and finding people who will love and appreciate him for who he is. Tell your child that you will love and value him regardless of whether he experiences a rejection or a success. If you notice symptoms of anger or depression that do not dissipate with your support, seek counseling to help your teen deal with the negative emotions.

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