How to Deal With an Out of Control Teen

Dealing with an out-of-control teenager is a problem many people face. According to Dr. Michael G. Conner, "Anger and learning to deal with anger is a necessary and important part of growing up." He suggests understanding why the teenager is acting the way he is, rather than using techniques to manage the anger. Out-of-control teenagers can require a lot of time before they can be dealt with. If home-grown remedies don't work, there is outside help available.

Instructions

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      Listen to the teenager and try to understand him. You may not agree with his thoughts, but your teen will be more open with you if you don't criticize him. It is sometimes difficult for teens to find someone to be open and honest with. Communication is key in dealing with out-of-control teenagers.

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      Try to relate to what the teenager is going through. Every adult has been a teenager at one point. Recall what you had problems with when you were a teenager and tell the teenager how you dealt with your problems. If you are a teenager, be open and relate to the teenager by divulging issues you have. Finding common ground can strengthen the relationship and the teenager will be more comfortable around you. Teenagers who feel comfortable are generally more in control.

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      Encourage the teenager to participate in healthy activities. Sports has long been a social stimulator for youths who sometimes find there is little for them to do. Participating in a hobby could lead the teenager away from harmful activities, such as drugs, and it could introduce her to people who entertain a healthy lifestyle.

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      Sign the teenager up for school or family counseling, so that a third party can get to the heart of the issue. Sometimes all that is needed is an objective person to balance the wants and needs of each party. A well-trained counselor will be able to help the teenager explain what he is going through. Setting aside time in the day in a formal setting will make the teenager more comfortable and willing to divulge what is bothering him. A counselor can help find a compromise that satisfies both you and the teenager.

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      Seek outside intervention if your teenager continues to behave poorly. A boot camp is a radical solution designed to enforce discipline in the most profoundly delinquent teenagers. Drill sergeants will enforce a "tough love" policy to change the teenager into a controlled person.

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