How to Tell If Your Daughter Is Going Into Puberty?
Children grow up so quickly. Of course you want to do the right things as a parent and make good decisions. But sometimes it is difficult to know what is best. For example, it seems like yesterday when your daughter was only interested in Barbie dolls. Now her interests are changing, as she becomes more focused on her appearance. Is she approaching puberty? Look for signs that reveal whether your daughter is in puberty and becoming sexually mature, while helping her to adjust.
Things You'll Need
- Book by Lynda Madaras
- Journal
- Pen in your daughter's favorite color
Instructions
My Body is Changing
Arrange for some private time with your daughter when you will not be disturbed, so she feels at ease. Consider making your private time around a lunch or afternoon tea and crumpets. Reassure your daughter that nothing is wrong. Because you have asked her to have a talk, she may be apprehensive. Tell her that it is "girl talk." Your daughter may be overwhelmed and frightened about the way her body is developing. Ask her open-ended questions about how she is feeling, but keep it conversational and lighthearted. Explain to her that all girls go through the same transition and that she will be just fine. Empathy goes a long way. Share with your daughter a similar time in your life when your body began to change. Explain to her the reasons for breast development, the start of her menstrual period, the growth of pubic hair, and an increase in height and weight. Sharing a book can truly bond two people. In this instance, your attention, concerns, and insights are a wonderful gift to your daughter. Lynda Madaras wrote an informative book that can help you to set your daughter on a healthy path toward adulthood. The book, "Ready, Set, Grow!", is an easy read, and well worth it. Many moms and daughters affectionately remember sharing a special time in a young lady's life and using this book as bibliotherapy. After you have finished reading the book, present it to your daughter. Ask her to read it, too. Set a day and time to discuss the book in private. Ask your daughter to describe her likes and dislikes about the book. Did she like the illustrations? Were they helpful? How do she feel about what is happening to her body? Is her underwear uncomfortable? How does her bra feel if she is running around in a gym class? The book leads to all sorts of practical discussions. After the two of you have read the book and have talked about it, remember that the conversation need not end there. Ongoing dialogue is important. Your daughter will undoubtedly have questions and concerns about sexuality as she continues to grow. Because you have opened the door to having these conversations, your daughter may be more likely to talk with you about birth control, values, sexually transmitted diseases, and how to care for herself. Discuss any concerns about your daughter's puberty with your pediatrician. You may wish to know about any changes with her medical care, such as the frequency of visits or any tests that might be appropriate. What are the primary safety issues that a mother should be concerned about during puberty? What dietary changes, if any, should be made? Because your daughter's body is changing, she may need to adjust her hygiene habits. Ask your pediatrician to explain what hygiene changes are appropriate at this point. Each medical practice has its own protocol regarding the age groups that they treat. Ask your daughter's doctor at what age you should transition her to a doctor who treats adults.