How to Discuss Touchy Subjects With Teenagers

Discussing touchy or controversial subjects, such as sex, drugs, alcohol or eating disorders with teenagers can be a big challenge for parents. The goal is to give teenagers important information without coming across as judgmental or critical. Discussing these topics is awkward for both parents and teenagers, but it is important to encourage open and honest dialogue. Teenagers who know they can discuss matters like sexuality or bullying with their parents are more likely to make safe and healthy decisions.

Instructions

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      Begin early. Decide when to talk about certain subjects, and try to introduce them in an age-appropriate manner. For example, if you know your school district begins teaching about human sexuality in sixth grade, discuss it at home during the same time.

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      Encourage your teenager to discuss tough subjects with you by letting him know you're available to talk at any time and about anything. Don't make any subject taboo, since this will discourage open discussions. Instead, answer questions as honestly as you can to prepare your teenager to make the right decisions.

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      Prepare yourself for tough conversations. If you want to discuss eating disorders with your teenager, do some research. Present her with facts without shaming her.

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      Set aside a time to talk. This is particularly important if your teenager brings up a touchy subject with you. Don't make it seem like you are avoiding the conversation; instead, when he brings up the subject, encourage his questions and make a point of talking later that same day rather than trying to have a conversation when other things are going on.

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      Listen to your teenager. Don't jump to conclusions; instead, hear her out and let her tell you why she wants to discuss this with you. For example, if your teenager wants to talk about drug abuse, don't assume she is taking drugs. Instead, let her explain why she is asking.

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      Give your teenager multiple points of view on the subject. Tell him your own views, but also remind him that there are many opinions. For example, if your teenager is going to a party where there will be drinking, saying "Don't drink" does not engage him in a discussion. Instead, say, "I would prefer if you didn't drink, but if you do, be responsible," and explain what that means.

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      Avoid being judgmental or critical. If your teenager tells you she is in a sexual relationship, try not to be angry. Instead, talk to her about safe sex, birth control and her responsibilities to both her partner and herself.

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