How to Develop Self-Awareness in Teens
Self-awareness, a psychological concept that refers to the ability to introspect and reflect on your own personality, behaviors and emotions, fluctuates throughout the life span, according to psychologist Philippe Rochat in a 2003 article for the journal, "Consciousness and Cognition." The teen years are usually the time when most people begin to develop an increased sense of self-awareness. Teens start to feel responsible for what they say and do and truly begin to understand the impact of their actions on others. But helping your teen develop an increased sense of self-awareness can help her make more positive and fulfilling life choices.
Instructions
Promote self-reflection, especially during times of heated emotion, suggests Dr. Matthew K. Nock, an assistant psychology professor at Harvard University, in an article he reviewed and approved for Teens Health. Teens have the ability to reflect on their actions and emotions even when they're angry, but they won't always do so of their own accord. Ask your teen to take a timeout to cool off and examine his feelings. Foster autonomy by allowing your teen to make his own decisions on some important matters. Offer guidance as necessary, but let the ultimate decision be his -- within reason, that is, if the outcome won't involve self-harm or danger. Providing opportunities for autonomous decision making can help your teen become more self-aware, as he reflects on the possible benefits and consequences of his actions. Encourage your teen and show confidence in her abilities, suggests Joycelyn Tucker Burgo, a project manager at the University of Missouri's addiction technology center, in an article for that school's Building Strong Families program. Teens who feel supported and respected by their parents learn to recognize their strengths and develop insight into their emotions and behaviors. Model positive self-esteem and confident behaviors. Be a positive mirror, suggests the Ask Dr. Sears website. Teens develop self-awareness by watching their parents, and they'll notice if you have low self-confidence or little regard for your own abilities. Without self-confidence, it's difficult to develop self-awareness. Address self-esteem or self-image issues with a professional so you are able to be a better role model for your teen. Follow through with consequences for poor behavior, no matter how tough it might feel. If your teen feels like she can get away with negative behaviors, she won't be encouraged to reflect on the consequences of her actions, which can hamper the development of self-awareness.