How to Write a Sincere Letter to Your Step-Daughters to Be

As you enter your new marriage and your family grows, you're likely to face a number of challenges when adjusting to one another. In one respect, you'll be sharing a house with people you've never lived with before, but you'll also have to solidify relationships with your new husband's children to have the best home life possible. There can be an increased tension between daughters and their stepmothers especially, so writing a sincere letter to them before you begin your lives together will help break the ice, let them know your feelings and allow them to know a little more about your intentions with them before you are together under the same roof. Taking the time to plan how you want the letter to make them feel and the thoughts you want to convey will help turn your letter into a success.

Instructions

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      Use a piece of scrap paper to create an outline of the ideas and thoughts you want to convey in the letter. Include your feelings towards their father, how you feel about them, your relationship with their biological mother (if any) and your hopes for your future relationship.

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      Write a draft version of the letter, without regards to grammar, punctuation rules, run-on sentences or consistency in your thoughts. Simply get your thoughts and your most sincere feelings out onto paper so you can have something to look at when constructing your final version.

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      Look over your outline and your first draft, and put your thoughts into order so that one paragraph flows easily to the next and makes sense when reading it. In order to put your thoughts together in a more objective way, you may find it easier to take a break from the letter for 24 hours and come back with a fresh mind and renewed perspective.

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      Edit the letter to make sure you don't have any major mistakes and ensure you didn't leave anything out. Try reading the letter as an outsider, and look for any language that could possibly be taken in a way that you don't intend it. If you find some phrases like this, re-word them so they sound better.

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      Choose a nice piece of stationary. Write the letter by hand in legible handwriting to give it a personal touch. Enclose it in an envelope and deliver it to the young ladies that will one day be some of your closest family members.

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