How to Handle Pregnancy as a Single Mother
Going through a pregnancy as a single mom can be tough, but know that you're not the only one facing this challenge. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, in 2011, 40 percent of all births in the U.S. were to single mothers. A February 2012 New York Times article discloses that this number is even higher for younger women -- over half of all moms under 30 are giving birth outside of wedlock. No matter your age or circumstances, surviving a solo pregnancy is a tough but ultimately rewarding experience.
Instructions
Look for support from friends and family members. Do not apologize or listen to criticism if anyone is judgmental, just move on and spend time with people who are happy for you. Find a trusted companion, whether a sister, mom or best pal, who is willing to accompany you to birthing classes and even into the delivery room when the time comes. If no one in your immediate circle is available for this, seek out a doula. These caregivers provide both practical and emotional support during and after the birth. While many doulas charge for their services, you may be able to find a volunteer. Budget for all of the extra expenses you'll incur once your child is born. Diapers, baby clothes, toys, formula, child care, doctor visits...the list goes on and on, and without another wage earner in the family, you may have to bear all of the financial burden on your own. Put in those overtime hours now before the baby comes, and sock away as much money as you can into a special "baby fund." If finances are tight, check with your local social services agency to see if you'll qualify for any benefits such as subsidized child care or food assistance. Arrange ahead of time for a work and child care schedule that fit together. If you're parenting solo, this usually means it's necessary to find full time childcare, since you may need to work full time to make ends meet. Child care centers might not be your best bet if their hours of operation don't cover your work and commute time. Look for a home-based child care provider who's willing to be more accommodating with working hours. If you are in a profession that allows for flexible hours or telecommuting, check with your employer to see if you can transition to such a schedule or position once your baby is born. Care for yourself. Realize that your baby needs you to stay strong and healthy -- as his only parent-to-be, he will be relying on you completely, and you've got to be at your best. That means you need to eat right, get enough rest and go to all of your prenatal checkups even when you feel self-conscious amongst all the happy hand-holding couples. Just remember that you'll soon have a tiny hand of your own to hold, and with everything you do to take care of yourself, you're taking care of your unborn child as well. Keep a positive attitude. Make up your mind that you're going to be the best parent you can be all on your own, and realize that you are more than capable of handling all of the challenges that will come your way. Know that all of your struggles and sacrifices will be more than rewarded when you first get to hold your little one in your arms -- and that later, as your child grows up, he will find strength and inspiration from the fact that you cared enough about him to give birth to and raise him by yourself.
