Godly Ways to Praise a Child

The apostle Paul gave advice to parents in his letter to the Colossians. In chapter 3 he wrote: "Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged." Certainly there are times for discipline and admonishment, but kids need to hear praise often. They can easily become discouraged if they feel as though they can't do anything right or please you. Make a determined effort to praise your child for something every day.

  1. Unconditional Praise

    • God loves us when we make mistakes, and parents should emulate this when relating to their children. Tell your child often that he is a gift from God. You can quote James 1:17, which states that "Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above." Remind your child that you don't expect perfection, but that you are blessed simply because God sent him to you.

    Public Praise

    • God praised His son, Jesus, in circumstances when others were present. Matthew 3:17 states, "And a voice from heaven said, "This is my dearly loved Son, who brings me great joy." Follow this example by praising your child publicly. For example, tell relatives and friends about your child's progress in school. Sincere praise is different from boasting. Instead of bragging about all your child's accomplishments, include the truth that God enabled your child to improve. If your child is present, this will help him learn humility.

    Specific Praise

    • Sometimes praise needs to be specifically applied so your child will be encouraged and continue what he's doing. If your child has been struggling to learn a skill or has been disobedient, praise him for trying to improve. Offer uplifting words even in the small things like when he remembers to clean his room or helps a neighbor with a chore. Children of all ages want to know that their actions please you.

    Praising During Difficulty

    • Part of parenting involves going through difficult times as your child matures, becomes more independent and tests the boundaries you've established. It might be extremely hard to find anything to praise your child for when these crises occur, but your words can help heal a bad circumstance. Affirm his worth by telling him you love him, but that he is too fine a person for you to allow him to do whatever he wants. Even as you enforce consequences, use words that affirm your love and acceptance no matter what the circumstance.

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