How to Help Special Needs Children Adjust to New Siblings

Most parents experience at least some pangs of worry amidst the joy when they are awaiting a new arrival. The parents of a child with special needs might feel that they have even more reason to be anxious. They might worry that the new baby will also have special needs, even if mom and day have been reassured that this is improbable. When the baby arrives, the parents might wonder how the older child will relate to her. All parents think about this issue, but the child with special needs might have issues to be dealt with that go beyond the usual advice.

Instructions

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      Prepare your child for the arrival of the new baby. Explain it to him in simple terms. Point out some examples of families with two children -- perhaps among cousins or friends. Do not tell the child too far in advance of the birth. Give your explanation in terms that are appropriate to the child's age as well as the level of understanding. If you are unsure of this ask, the advice of your physician or a support group for parents of children with special needs.

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      Ask other family members to help during the initial adjustment period. This is easier if you have a few people who are working in close harmony. A grandparent for instance, could spend extra time with your older child and make him feel special. It is important that you spend some time on your own with the older child, while your spouse takes care of the baby.

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      Involve your older child in the care of his sibling. He could fetch the diapers, or hold her hand gently. Praise him and tell him how much you like his help. When he gets bored with this, encourage him to play and enjoy his own interests and friends. Encourage him to tell others about his little baby sister, as this reinforces a growing bond between them.

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