How to Help Children Struggling With Low Self-esteem
Avoiding tasks, cheating, mood changes, social withdrawal, making excuses, decreasing grades and become bossy or controlling are possible signs of low self-esteem, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics. Without a healthy self-esteem, your child has little defense against stressful circumstances, conflict or peer pressure. Your child is likely to lack problem-solving skills and be overly critical about himself. If you suspect your child has low self-esteem, you can help improve his sense of self with your actions.
Instructions
Surround your child with a loving, supportive environment. A child who feels safe has a better chance of having high self-esteem, according to KidsHealth. Show your affection physically and verbally. Give your child hugs and tell him how much you love him. Watch what you say about yourself. Modeling poor self-esteem can teach your child to do the same to himself, according to KidsHealth. Practice putting a positive spin on your thoughts about yourself. Instead of complaining about your thick thighs, say, "I have strong legs that help me walk, run and dance." Monitor your criticisms of your child. Pointing out what he does wrong or needs to improve might feel as though you're helping him, but he might feel as though you are picking apart every move he makes. You don't want to lie about his abilities to make him feel better, but you do want to avoid giving him more things to dislike about himself. Recognize both achievement and effort. He won't always get an A on his assignments or land the lead role in the school play. He might not even make it in the cast. But hearing that you are proud of his efforts can help boost his self-esteem. Say, "Even though you didn't get the part you wanted, I'm so proud of you for practicing the lines and trying out." Involve yourself in your child's life. Volunteer at his school or in his activities. For example, coach his soccer team or become his Scout leader. Ask him about his day and look through the papers he brings home from school. Stop what you are doing to listen when he speaks. Encourage your child to participate in activities that make him feel a sense of accomplishment. He might not excel on the basketball court, but he might shine in a kids' acting class. Help him explore his own talents and skills. Point out what your child does well to showcase his talents. Let him know when you see him doing something outstanding. Say, "You have such a big heart. Standing up for your friend when he got picked on shows your character. I am so proud of you."
