How to Improve Compassion

Bullying is a troubling problem among school-aged children, and many parents wonder if they are doing enough to prevent aggressive behaviors in their own kids. Fortunately, compassion is an innate virtue in most children. Your child probably wants to show generosity and kindness, but he'll need some help learning the self-control, discipline and self-sacrifice necessary for the true practice of compassion.

Instructions

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      Be mindful of your example. For example, the next time you're on the phone with a clueless customer service representative, take a deep breath and reign in your frustration. Will yourself to speak kindly and politely. Remember that your children watch and learn from your example.

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      Show your child compassion. The next time your child is sick, turn off the television and put away your work. Talk, snuggle, make chicken soup and take time to really engage with your child. Compassion is more than just a charitable donation -- it's a personal connection.

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      Offer opportunities to donate to a charity, but don't force the issue. Your child might respond more if it is an organization to which she can relate. For instance, you may want to make contributions to a camp for kids or a pet rescue organization. Ask if she would like to donate part of her allowance. Don't force your child to contribute, but make it clear that you will be sending money. Explain what the money will be used for.

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      Volunteer as a family. Find age-appropriate ways your child can help in the community. You might visit the elderly at a local nursing home or make gifts to take to children at the local hospital. Before you volunteer, remind your child that she is expected to show respect and kindness to the people she serves. Make sure she understands that all people -- regardless of their social status -- deserve to be treated with dignity.

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      Establish clear rules and boundaries. Help your child understand that some behaviors such as name-calling, hitting and bullying -- inside and outside of the house -- are never acceptable. Establish consequences for rude behavior in your home and keep the lines of communication open with your child's teacher.

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      Point out examples of compassion. When your child is watching television, for example, verbally recognize characters who model generosity. Talk about historical figures such as Mother Teresa and Ghandi, who spent their whole life in the service of others.

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      Acknowledge when your child is being compassionate. The next time you notice your child sharing a toy or helping a friend, commend her for her generosity. Positive attention reinforces good behavior.

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