Proper Displays of Affection With Children
While each child is different, one characteristic remains true for all kids -- they need affection, especially from parents. Of course, as individuals, different kids crave different types of affection, and some types of affection could make your child uncomfortable. Whether your child needs a hug or a few kind words, you can offer up an appropriate amount of affection to help you connect with your little one.
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Physical Touch
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One of the most obvious ways you can show affection to your child is through physical touch. Hugs, kisses, holding hands or even a quick squeeze of an elbow can be enough to let your child know that you care. Just remember that physical affection should always be a choice, warns FamilyEducation.com. No matter who is giving the physical affection, your child should never feel someone is forcing him into a hug or other type of physical interaction.
Quality Time
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Some kids don't need as much physical touch but rather crave your attention to know that you care. The University of Illinois Extension points out that young children can sometimes feel forgotten, especially if you live a busy lifestyle and constantly multitask. By taking a few minutes out of your day and spending time with your child -- asking questions, listening to answers, playing together -- you can make your little one feel loved and valued.
Verbal Praise
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If your child thrives on the kind words of others, he might appreciate verbal affection above all other types. Verbal affection can mean a lot to a child, even if the words are as simple as "I love you." It's one of the simplest forms of affection, especially because you can say it frequently throughout the day and pair it with your actions. Some kids also need praise throughout the day, whether it's a "Good job!" or "You rock!" Specific praise is also effective, such as, "I saw how hard you studied for that test, and I'm impressed with your final score." Avoid praise that is contingent upon factors out of your child's control, like looks. Instead, give kudos for effort or actions.
Discipline
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Discipline might not be one of the first things that come to mind when thinking about affection, but it's one way that you can clearly send the message that you care. Most importantly, discipline is a way to keep your child safe; he's not allowed to cross the street without you because it's dangerous. Discipline also gives your child clear rules and boundaries on which he can count. While he might whine about those rules, you know that predictability gives him security and helps him feel loved.
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