How to Advise My Husband Not to Verbally Abuse My Son
According to Kids Health, verbal or emotional abuse comes from yelling, criticizing or threatening children. Often, parents suffering from excessive stress take it out on their children. While it may be difficult for outsiders to recognize, you as a mother must deal directly with it. Since emotional abuse causes hurt and damage just like physical abuse, you have the responsibility to advise your husband to stop and seek help if he's abusing your son.
Instructions
Sit down with your husband without your son around. Tell him that the verbal abuse towards your son is hurting you and your family relationships. Do not accuse him of wrongdoing at this point so he doesn't feel like you are backing him in a corner. Say something like "We need to work on how we speak to our son." Throwing accusations can drive a wedge between you and your husband if he feels like you are taking your son's side. Persuade your husband that using humor and play when dealing with your son is more positive. For instance, he can use a fake voice, make up a fake cry or make a game out of discipline. This helps raise his emotional intelligence, or the ability to monitor his own emotions and those of others. This helps him achieve the goal of building strong relationships, according to Helpguide. Suggest family counseling. North Dakota State University suggests seeking outside help if your husband verbally abuses you or your son, since the abuse may be stress related. Family counseling services or the family and children service office in your area can offer help. Contact your local Chamber of Commerce for a list of agencies. Getting help as a family makes your husband feel less like a target. Leave the situation if your husband refuses help or will not stop verbally abusing your son. As a parent, ignoring the problem means you are neglecting your child. This is a form of child abuse according to the Healthy Children website.