How to Help Kids Become More Ambitious

Take an interest in your child's interests, even if you would rather he spent time on other things. If your child believes you are listening to him and willing to learn about his passions, he will be more likely to listen to you when you want to impart advice. Children want to know what their parents think, says child therapist Kenneth Parish in the article "He's Not Motivated Part II" for "Psychology Today." For example, if your child seems to want to do nothing but watch action movies, ask him what he likes about them. He may imagine himself taking a starring role in one of those movies. Suggest that he join a local drama group to explore a possible interest in acting, enroll in a martial arts class -- or volunteer in the community to feel like a real hero.

Identify your child's frustrations. Children are not born lacking motivation, says Parish. It's your role as her parent to understand what difficulties she may be faced with. She may have mild learning problems or a lack of self-esteem. Acknowledge how she feels and let her know that you too have had periods of frustration and anxiety in your life.

Acknowledge every step your child takes toward improvement, no matter how small. Whatever his goal is -- improving his school grades, hitting a home run at baseball, getting a part in the school play -- your encouragement will greatly improve his chances. Commend his efforts, even if he doesn't achieve his goal. Remind him of the effort he has put in, and that nobody is successful all the time. Assure him that you have complete faith in him and that you know he will achieve great things.

Help your child identify her strengths. She may not be academically gifted, but show a natural flair for music. Show your support by facilitating the development of this talent, such as by paying for extra-curricular music lessons and helping your child practice her instrument at home. Boost her self-esteem by encouraging her efforts and celebrating her successes.