How to Help Children Deal With Gender Bias
It only takes one trip to the pink, sparkly girls' aisle of a toy store to see gender bias in action. Boys who want to play dress-up and girls who excel in math, science and other traditionally male pursuits may find themselves being teased and ostracized. According to the Geena Davis Institute on Gender in Media, children consistently see hypersexualized images of women in TV and movies, which can lead to body-image issues in girls and objectification of women by boys. For the sake of your child's self-esteem and compassion for others, helping him deal with gender bias is crucial.
Instructions
Introduce gender-neutral toys that encourage imaginative play for both sexes. For example, choose building blocks, educational toys and action figures that represent adventurous characters of both sexes. Introduce children to friends of differing genders and sexualities. When they meet a transgender or gay person, emphasize that person's positive personality traits, leaving gender out of it. If your child asks a gender- or sexuality-related question, answer frankly but casually, in the same manner you would if talking about straight, cisgender persons, those whose gender identities agree with their societally recognized sex. Talk about the difference between media and reality. Explain that mass media glorify a very narrow range of body types for both sexes, when in reality, a wide range of bodies can be beautiful. Use artist and writer Alison Bechdel's "Bechdel Test" when talking about movies and TV shows -- ask your child to point out two female characters, with names, who talk to each other about something besides men. Insist on equal educational opportunities and pursuits. Encourage your daughters in math and science as much as your sons, and encourage your sons in English and the arts as much as your daughters. If you teach your daughter to knit or cook, teach your son as well. If you teach your son to play ball or fix things around the house, include your daughter. Read books with strong female characters and compassionate male characters. Tell both sexes stories of adventure, individuality, achievement, relationships and love.