How to Discipline a Stubborn Toddler

Once your baby starts walking and talking, you may find that your toddler's new accomplishments require a new kind of discipline. A toddler's rapid development guarantees discipline difficulties as the baby struggles to communicate, perform complex tasks and exhibit control over its environment. Dr. William Sears, a renowned pediatrician, reminds parents that some difficult toddler behavior, such as temper tantrums, is developmentally appropriate, so be patient with your toddler as you guide the baby to more acceptable behavior. (Reference 3)

Instructions

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      Discipline your toddler by kneeling, squatting, or sitting by the baby's side to get its attention. (Reference 2)

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      Make eye contact with your toddler when possible to keep the baby's focus on you and less on the object of the toddler's frustration. (Reference 2)

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      State the desired behavior in simple terms and in a calm, firm tone of voice. Instead of launching into a long lecture or explanation about the dangers of the behavior, keep your discipline short and to the point. "No touch" or "soft touch" work for grabbing or rough toddler hands. Saying "please sit" can work when you want your toddler to sit in a high chair or car seat. A toddler might not get the association right away, but you are providing valuable modeling for when the baby is older. (Reference 2)

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      Redirect your toddler away from dangerous or undesirable situations such as electrical outlets or busy roads. Pick up the toddler and move the baby away if necessary, while pointing out a safer alternative. (Reference 2)

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      Distract your toddler when you need the baby to do something such as getting in a car seat or stroller by offering a favorite toy or song or calling the baby's name to attract its attention. Your toddler may become more cooperative when the baby has something fun to distract it from your goal. (Reference 2)

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      Pause before acting when dealing with a stubborn toddler who will not be redirected or distracted. Toddlers can become confused when they are yelled at for being loud, spanked as punishment for hitting or having something grabbed out of their hands while being told not to grab. Think about your toddler's actions from the baby's point of view before acting to avoid becoming angry and acting too harshly. (Reference 2)

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      Set firm boundaries when it comes to behavior you absolutely won't accept as toddlers grow older and learn the house rules. While a 1-year-old may not stop hitting simply because it is not allowed, the baby will learn this rule quickly if it is constantly enforced as the child grows older. (Reference 2)

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      Take a deep breath and take a break if you feel your stubborn toddler pushing you to the limit. While listening to a screaming toddler isn't fun, it is better to take a moment to regain your composure and rebuild your patience rather than losing your temper. Make sure your toddler is not in immediate danger and step back for a moment before trying again to discipline your stubborn toddler. (Reference 1)

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