Factors Affecting Self-Esteem in Teens

The Media

• Movies and TV can play a big role in how your teen thinks that she should look. Many teens fail to realize that many of the characters on their favorite shows about high school are not actually in their teens, but rather in their early 20s and are already past the growth and development stage of life. In addition, these celebrities have personal trainers, tons of cash to buy the top clothes and are wearing professionally done makeup. If your teen believes that she needs to look exactly like these actresses, she will not be happy with herself. She needs to know that this is not the realistic image of what a sixteen-year-old girl should look like.

Peers

• Since every teen is changing, many times the most self-conscious teens of all pick on their friends and classmates to feel better about themselves. If your teen constantly finds himself put down by his friends because his muscles aren't as big, he still has braces or he doesn't have the latest pair of sneakers, it can be very easy for your son to become self-conscious and even depressed. It is important to teach your teen not to compare himself to others and to surround himself with only supportive friends.

Comparison to Siblings

• If your teen constantly feels that she is being compared to an older brother or sister, it can put a huge dent in her self-esteem. Even if no one in the family is intentionally trying to hurt your teen, it can be hard for a teenager to be the sister of an honor student, with perfect teeth, who excels in sports and gets asked out on a date every weekend. Your daughter may feel that since she is not achieving the same level of success as her sister, than she is not good enough. It is important to always point out the good things that your daughter achieves even if they are not on a large scale. Simple things such as complimenting her new hairstyle or rewarding her for getting a B in math when she is normally a C student can mean a lot.

It Starts at Home

• As a parent, there is no way you can save your teen from questioning his body image or having some type of self-esteem issues as these things are a common part of growing up; however, you can do your best to instill as much confidence in your teen as possible. Starting at a young age, always encourage your son to find a sport or club that he enjoys. This helps him to achieve success and make friends. If your teen is struggling with a weight issue, start working out together or help him to find clothes to flatter his positive features. Working together and being in your teen's corner can help your child to be as happy as possible during this awkward time.