How to Reward a Child Without Spoiling

Rewards are gifts or consistent returns on expected behavior. Surprise rewards can be a smile, a hug or a gift given when your child has done something that makes you especially proud. An allowance is a consistent reward where you set a specific value on actions such as household chores, keeping a room clean or personal hygiene. Use vouchers for your personal time or no-cost privileges instead of money.

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      Give your child a surprise reward. Surprise rewards are extremely effective when your child is working on managing a difficult concept, such as keeping her temper in check when teased or cleaning her room every day. Privately keep track of the behavior, and give her an activity or item she has been longing for when her performance merits reinforcement. Meanwhile, words of encouragement can keep her going. Wait until she has accomplished the goal before mentioning the reward.

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      Set an allowance. Just as adults like to get paid for tasks they've accomplished, so do children. Set a specific value on household chores. For example, your child might get one household buck for each time he takes out the trash, or 25 cents in real money. Place a ceiling on the amount of cash your child can earn and insist on quality performance of the duty before paying up. Pay your child's allowance consistently.

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      Create a voucher system for rewards. Family budgets don't always have room for monetary rewards, but that doesn't mean you can't make your child feel special. Create paper "family dollars" or write "good notes" on a sheet of paper. When your child has accumulated enough reward vouchers, give the gift of time. Visit a local park, play a game together or read a story out loud. Promise an hour of your precious personal time, and let your child choose a special activity.

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