How to Give Children a Time-Out
Whether your toddler is throwing a tantrum, your preschooler gets out of control when you ask her to share her toy truck with a friend or your kindergartner has a fit when you turn off the TV, the time-out provides a non-punitive discipline strategy that can calm your little one down and put a stop to her unwanted behaviors. Time-outs work well to halt hostile behaviors, aggression or impulsive actions, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics on its HealthyChildren.org website. When your child acts out, step in with a time-out to tame her temper and get her back on the right track.
Instructions
Step in to employ the time-out tactic immediately. The AAP recommends putting a child on time-out within the first 10 seconds of the unwanted behavior. Use minimal language when you put your child on time-out. Avoid lengthy discussions or explanations about what the child is doing wrong, saving this type of talk for after the time-out is over and your child is calm. Keep your verbal instruction to a 10-word maximum, according to the AAP. Tell your child, in the simplest way possible, why he is going on time-out. For example, say, "No taking toys away from your brother," using a firm but calm tone. Choose a designated time-out place at home. Escort your child to the time-out spot, and away from the scene of her offense. Select a space that is free from distractions such as other children or the television set. Use one minute of time-out per year of the child's age. For example, your 3-year-old can go on time-out for three minutes. Set a timer to count down the time-out, making it clear just how long your child will need to sit. Discuss your child's behavior with him after the time-out buzzer rings. Tell your younger child what he needs to do to correct his behavior next time, or ask your older child to tell you why he was on time-out and what he thinks he could have done differently during his outburst or unwanted behavior.
