How to deal with controlling children

Controlling children are usually a product of their parents. They tend to mirror the parents personality, this is not true in all cases but many. Ways that you can deal with your controlling child are talking to them. Ask them why they feel the need to control situations and people around them.

Things You'll Need

  • Patience
  • Understanding
  • Rules in the home

Instructions

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      Tell them when they are feeling control "coming on" to take several deep breathes to relax. Tell them to do so counting to five. It will help them to gain control of themselves and let somethings go.

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      If you worry about how your child behaves around their peers then role play at home. Pretend to put them into situations that may make them feel they want to control and give them positive ways to react to them. For instance a friend is going to go hang out with another friend and you were not invited. Or your brother or sister took something of yours without asking.

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      Those are situations they would likely try and control and lash out at others. Giving them positive yet effective ways to handle different situations will give them better communication skills.

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      For the parent do not lose control in front of your own child. Also do not take control, staying in the middle where you are trying to make your child come to is the best way to lead by example.

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      Patience is key, if you want your child to learn anything think about what you are showing them yourself. You as the parent are their first teacher. It is our job to care for our children and if you ever feel that you need help then do not hesitate to get help for the both of you.

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      There are family counseling centers that can show you how to deal with your children and help you talk things out. Do not be embarrassed to go if you feel you need to. It is better to seek help then to continue down the wrong path with your child.

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      Teaching your child to be a non controlling person that deals with their problems in a productive way is a learned skill that can take time to learn. Let them know that it is not socially acceptable to act the way they are.

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      You the parent have to lead by example, that is the most important thing I can say. They look up to you and if you are controlling then they are following you. You need to fix your own ways before you can expect them to change theirs.

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