How to Raise Self Confidence in Boys
Boys are taught to be strong from a young age. Showing emotions is considered a sign of weakness. At an early age boys are taught that men don't cry. Boys are taught to suppress their feelings but are not given the proper tools to handle them. This can cause boys to feel isolated and as though they have no one who can understand them. Feelings of isolation may cause low self-esteem and can lead to disruptive behavior in order to fit in. It is important to instill self-confidence in boys so they will become emotionally healthy men.
Instructions
Make yourself available. Let them know you are someone who will listen without judgment. Because boys are taught to keep emotions inside, they may harbor fear of rejection if they express how they are feeling. Knowing they have someone who is willing to listen and not laugh at them can do wonders for their confidence. Teach boys how to deal with their emotions. Let them know that it is OK to express emotion. It is good for boys to witness the men in their lives express their feelings. It gives them permission to do the same. During times of high stress or grief, such as during a funeral, boys may become confused if they see the men around them acting as if they are unaffected by the circumstance. Exhibiting healthy levels of emotion at appropriate times reinforces the idea that having these emotions is normal. Encourage their interests. This does not necessarily mean that they have to be good at sports. In fact, if they are not athletically inclined and are chastised for it, this can crush their confidence. Help boys discover what they are good at and encourage them to pursue their interests whether it is science, writing or dancing. Teach them to appreciate their unique talents and capabilities. This will make them feel like a valuable asset to the world no matter what their interests.