Poems About Adopted Daughters

The love between parent and child is much deeper than blood. The bond you have with your adopted daughter might have been forged after much adjustment, growing pains and gradual attachment. Depending on how old your daughter was when she joined your family, she might have concerns about where she fits into your life and the family. Use poetry to help express just how special she is to you and to address the questions and issues that arise in every family.

  1. Bonding Poetry

    • A concern that arises for many adoptive parents is not only whether their child will bond with them, but whether they will bond with her. The Independent Adoption Center notes that an often unasked question is: "Will I love my adopted child as much as I love my biological child?" The bonding process between you and your adopted daughter can take time because it is psychological and not biological. Even with biological children, the bonding process continues after birth and develops with contact and experiences. Hence, it is no surprise that many poems on both biological and adopted children are about bonding. Write your own poetry about your experiences with your adopted daughter to talk about how your mutual bond formed and what made it grow stronger. This can be the first spontaneous smile directed at you from your adopted baby daughter or sharing a hobby with an older daughter.

    Chosen Children

    • You might refer to your adopted daughter as a chosen child, because she came to you after she was born. The site Adoption Poems notes that "chosen children" is a common theme among poetry about adopted kids. Your adopted daughter might feel confused and isolated when she comes into your family or finds out that she is adopted. You can help alleviate this trauma by sharing poetry written by others or poems of your own, about her being chosen by a higher power to fit into your family and life and why you feel blessed to have her there. Talk about the randomness of being matched to your adopted daughter being one of fortune and serendipity.

    Sibling Issues

    • Sibling issues are an important concern for adopted children. The North American Council on Adoptable Children found that adopted kids spoke of siblings with affection, sadness, longing, anger, envy, resentment, guilt, gratitude, or bitterness. Address these issues with your adopted daughter by using poetry. If she has been separated from siblings, tell her you understand her longing and she should not feel guilty for wanting to know her biological family. If she has issues with siblings in her adopted family, assure her that she enhances their lives and you each love each other in spite of the sibling rivalry. This is particularly important if your adopted daughter joined your family when she was older and already had notions about herself and what siblings should be like.

    Sample Poetry

    • If you are not the type to write your own poetry find one of the many poems that best expresses your relationship with your adopted daughter. The poem "Joy" by April M. Gates begins: "I have a little girl,/Mckaylie is her name,/It̵7;s hard to believe, because we don't look the same./Joy is what she brings me everyday,/I could not imagine life any other way." A poem titled "The Heart of Adoption" by Lynda Dangelo reads: "The heart of adoption/It̵7;s quite an option./You take the chance,/expect the best and accept no less." Another adoption poem is aptly titled "Baby, We Were Meant For Each Other." You can quote these poems directly or put in your own adopted daughter's name to make it about her.

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